You are an amazing woman, working hard each day to take care of those you love, give your all to the work you perform and do your best to take care of yourself in the process. Your day is packed to the gills and sometimes as the day comes to a close, you are simply glad the day is over. Your day was not characterized by enjoyment and being present. The questions is, how can you change that in the midst of your already busy life?
I want to live the best possible life I can live. For some reason, I feel that everything in life should go smoothly all of the time. As you may suspect, this belief has caused me a lot of grief, because, that is simply not how life works. There is something deep inside of me that strives for it every single day though. It is a blessing and a curse all at the same time. But because of it, I am always asking myself “what can I do to make my day and life better?”
Like many of you, I am a planner and kind of addicted to checking things off my “to do” list. This is great, but it does cause some other issues. When my focus is on the completion of a task, my focus is not on enjoying the process and being present in the moment. Can you relate? So, as I always do, I ask myself if this is something I want to change, and it is. Then I start to figure out how to make it happen. Here is what I have found:
Start with a plan. Start your day with a well formed, realistic plan, which includes your “to do” list. This may require some organization and planning ahead of time. At the end of each day, I take a few minutes to plan out my next day. What this plan does is it allows me to “work my plan” the next day.
Focus solely on each of your tasks or appointments. While you are doing dishes, train your mind to think only about that. It’s a great time to be grateful for the food you have been blessed with. When you are at an appointment, give the other person all of your attention. Really listen and engage. If you are like me, this takes some training, because my mind likes to wander on to what is next. Keep bringing your mind back to what you are doing right then.
Increase enjoyment by recognizing the positive things in each moment and task. We all have a choice whether to focus on the positive things or the negative ones. I understand, there are some days when it feels like EVERYTHING has gone wrong. On most days though, we can find some positive things to focus on. The beautiful sunrise when we are stuck in traffic. Reminding yourself that you are getting stronger when you are sore after a workout. Spending a little extra time at home with your little one when they are not feeling well.
Once you invest in these principles, you can apply them to your every day and every moment. Enjoyment and being present usually doesn’t “just happen”. We can add more into our lives by thinking and planning ahead, working our plan, then enjoying one project at a time.
Here’s to focusing on one thing at a time to increase our enjoyment and presents.Photo by Jopwell from Pexels