Through the past month I have spent some time focusing on some great qualities of our world today, but also some unintended consequences. We have talked about how the speed of today can get us into the mindset that living and accomplishing things slowly is a bad thing. We have also looked at the awesome conveniences in our world today, but how we can start to feel like things are bad when they get a little bit hard. In my last blog post, we looked at the entertainment that is at our fingertips, but how we can start to see “boring” as bad. Today, I am going to tackle a fourth quality of our world and the challenging consequences.
The topic for today is uncomfortable for me. It is a topic where I want to point fingers at other people, but in reality, I need to point it back at myself. The topic is ENTITLEMENT.
The definition from the Oxford Dictionary is: the belief that one is inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment (underline mine).
Because I want to live the best life I can, and I believe you read my blog posts because you want to also, I think it’s important for some self reflection. I have to ask myself “are there times in my day when I feel like I am deserving of privileges and special treatment?” The answer is yes.
I find myself especially bad at feeling like I deserve special treatment when I am crazy busy and with little time to spare. I can find myself whipping in and out of traffic not caring who I inconvenience. I can get in my zone at the grocery store and not care about anyone else. I feel like I deserve everything to run smoothly at work, and when it doesn’t, I take it out on those around me. I deserve to be healthy. I deserve for things to come easy. I deserve privilege.
We all want to live the best life that we can and I feel like one of the ways to combat entitlement is to think of others. I get into the “entitlement trap” when all I am thinking about is myself, but that is all I have time for sometimes. I want to remind myself and all of you today, serving others can be done in some very small ways, we just have to be intentional about doing it. It can be grabbing a co-worker a coffee when you pick up yours. It can be allowing someone in front of you during rush hour traffic. It can be grabbing an extra can of food at the grocery store and put it in the food collection box for the food bank. It all starts with our mindset. When I start to think about others, what they are going through and how I can encourage them, my heart fills and what I deserve is not my only focus.
Of course, I do not want us to neglect ourselves and our self care, but my encouragement to all of us, in this world of entitlement, is to work to think about, love and serve others. Will you join me in that focus over the next few weeks as the hustle and bustle of the Holiday Season begin?
I think the best Holiday Season is one of both taking care of ourselves and prioritizing others as well.
Here’s to living our best!Photo by fotografierende from Pexels