The past few months I have written about the positive qualities of our world that unfortunately, have created some consequences that were not originally intended. We’ve talked about the speed of our world and how sometimes we see going slow as a bad thing. We have looked at the amazing conveniences we have, but we can easily get frustrated when things are hard and don’t come easy. We have looked at our entertainment world and how we are not even sure how to be bored anymore, or if that is a good thing. This last quality of our world with unintended consequences is the hardest one for me, which is why I pushed it off until last. I am not even sure where to start.
Dr. Tim Elmore, is the founder & President of an organization called Growing Leaders. I just recently heard him speak at a conference I attended. He is the one who brought the aforementioned topics to my attention and they have really challenged me. The last topic he shared was that our world focuses on nurturing as a priority with safety always first on our mind. My reaction to this was “right on!” We have to always watch out for our safety and the safety of those we love. Here is the wrench Dr. Elmore through in my thought process. He shared that when we are focused on nurturing and safety we, and our kids, start to see risk as bad.
Quite a few years back now, John and I met with our financial planner. One of the first things he did in the process of getting to know us, was to learn what our risk tolerance was with regards to our finances. John and I do not like high risk, we like safety. I know in my mind that some risk in life is needed, but in my core, I want safety. How about you?
The challenge is that a lot of great things in our world happen outside of our comfort zone. When we step outside of our comfort zone, we learn some very important things in life. Neale Donald Walsch has a quote that says “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.”
The question this stirs up in me is, am I willing to fail? Ouch! Now please know, I am not suggesting you put yourself in any unsafe or harmful situation. What I am challenging myself with, and you in turn is, if we are too afraid to fail, we will always stay in our safe place. I don’t know about you, but I want life to be more of an adventure than that.
I think that is a good place to stop and chew for awhile, I know I am going to. I know we all have many things on our plate over the next month into the next year, but ask yourself if you need to work on the fear of failing in 2020. It might have to be one of my focuses.
Let’s Life Live Together: I cannot work on overcoming my fear of failing by myself, and you probably can’t either. I am going to share this with the people who are in my inner circle so that they can not only challenge me, but be there for me when I am afraid. We all need encouragement and our inner circle is where we should find it. Who is in your inner circle? Lean on each other like never before to move forward in the areas that are most important to you in life.
Here’s to seeing risk as a way towards progress, and to enjoy the progress with those closest to us.Photo by Guduru Ajay bhargav from Pexels