As December moves along, in what feels like a faster speed than ever, I naturally tend to reflect on the past year. Do you do that, too? I did not go into this year with any particular theme in mind, but as I reflect back on it, I realize that it was a year to getting more comfortable in my own skin. That seems crazy to say for a forty seven year old woman, but this year I got to know, understand and love myself more, and life is better because of it.
Being your best YOU is a very important part of what I write about because it goes hand and hand with living our best lives. This past year, I took the time to differentiate between who I really am and who I thought I was supposed to be. I thought I was supposed to do things like everyone else, and fit in. The more I discovered my passions, convictions, and uniqueness, and put into action the things that were true to me, the more “right” my life felt. I want the same for you.
Continuing to better know, understand and love ourselves helps us make life decisions that are true to who we really are. Let’s look at just a few:
Let’s ask ourselves “What do I value most?” or “What is most important to me?” When we are confident in what we value, other things seem less important. The more time we spend on what is most important to us, the more life feels right. We are also more confident in saying “no” to the things that aren’t as important. Our lives can become very busy, and knowing what you value and want to say “yes” to will help you be your best YOU.
It’s also important to ask yourself “What do I need to be my best?” For me, and those struggling with health issues, those needs can be pretty simple like good sleep, healthy food, movement and sunshine during these short winter days. The more we understand our personal needs, from our basic health needs to social needs, work needs, relationship needs, and even financial needs, the more we can tailor our lives to meet those needs. When you take care of the needs that are personal to you, it will give you fuel to live your best and be your best.
Lastly, we have an amazing future ahead of us, so let’s ask ourselves “what do I want in my future?” “What do I dream of?” Dreaming about our future gives us something to look forward to. It also gives us something, personal to each of us, to work towards. I dream of future vacations, a future small house with an amazing view, and activities that will keep me young at heart. Dreaming about what is most important to you will move you in the direction that is best for you for years to come.
What have you learned about yourself this past year? What do you value most? What do you need in your life to live it well? What are you dreaming of for your future? Have you been doing things that are not true to you in order to fit in? Knowing and understanding these things will help you be your best YOU and live the life that will feel just right for you.
Living Life Together: Do you have someone in your life who values the same things you do? Someone who is working to better themselves in the same way you are? These are great people to partner with as you move forward in your dreams for the new year and beyond. Spending time with these individuals in my life encourages me, allow me to laugh and keeps me motivated. As we approach the coming year, who can you partner with to keep yourself fueled up as you work towards living your best and being the best YOU you can be?
Here’s to closing out an amazing year and opening another chapter as the next year starts!